I often talk to women who tell me about someone they’ve met, maybe they’re in a situationship, or he’s “not ready for a relationship,” or he’s avoidant, emotionally unavailable, “doesn’t want to complicate things,” or he breadcrumbs them, offering merely crumbs of attention, texting now and then, or they spend time together and then he disappears.
And on one hand, they know that what they’re living through is emotionally draining and that they should make the decision to end it, but on the other hand, they just can’t, because the connection with him was incredible.
I completely understand. When you can talk with someone and laugh all night, and the sex is great, it feels like you have everything. It feels insane not to be in a “real” relationship together. No one else makes you feel like this. It’s amazing when you’re together, and he says he doesn’t want to lose you or what you have. So why doesn’t he want exclusivity, or to see you more often, or make it official?
One moment you tell him you’ve had enough and it’s over, and he says he’ll miss you but he understands. Then you go back to him because he messages you or you miss what you had, or you think maybe you didn’t try hard enough to show him you’re The One, and if you just give it one more chance, he’ll finally realize it or be scared enough of losing you to commit.
You have to believe me: the right person for you is never someone who isn’t ready. Connection is wonderful but it isn’t everything. It’s not enough. It has to exist alongside with readiness, with willingness and intention to build something with you. Neither is enough on its own, you need both.
And sometimes, you may need to sacrifice the sizzling spark and the dreamy connection and settle for something that feels a bit less intense, but is sure to go further, because it has the time and space to grow and evolve.
So what else is there? If you need closure, send one final message. Say you’re stepping away and you want him to respect it, and don’t look back.
It’s the right decision, even if it hurts. (And it will). But you’ll think about it one day when you’re with someone who truly chooses you, and you’ll laugh. Or rather, you won’t think about it at all.
If your story isn’t quite over yet, and you believe there’s still a chance the relationship status could change, I can help you:
- Analyze the facts and what’s really happened between you
- Evaluate the signs and their meaning realistically
- Decode his messages and see what’s hidden beneath words and actions
- Regain control of the communication with calm and confidence, without extreme reactions or impulsive moves.
It’s crucial to know where you stand and to learn to send the right message at the right time.
We don’t pressure or manipulate people, we simply project our authenticity at our best, and invite the other person to meet us there.
If there’s real potential with this person, then with the right approach, we can greatly increase the chances of something healthy unfolding. But only if it’s truly right.
If you want to give this relationship one last chance, let’s work on it together. I don’t do magic, but it’s truly magical how much things can change with emotional maturity and clear communication. Fill in the form and we’ll talk!