Who women
want
A feminist dating guide for men
They have lied to us. They’ve been lying to us ever since we were born. Saying women only want a relationship and men only want sex. That if a woman wants sex, she is a slut. That if a man wants affection, he is not man enough. That there is a battle between the sexes, and we are in opposing camps. That one must have power over the other, or be the loser of the game. That we are not allowed to ask for more. Even when we have infinite options, swipe by swipe. We didn’t dare ask for more, because no one was listening.
Not anymore. Dating is changing. Women have started to realize it, and time’s up. The old rules no longer apply, what we took for granted was wrong and we need to un-learn and learn again. We need to look at straight dating from a fresh perspective. With genuine curiosity. With honesty. Kindness. Mutuality. Respect. A longing for laughter, fun and play. It’s all here. From sexist jokes to rape culture, from rejection to incels, from the Friend Zone to Good Guys™ from flirting to harassment, from sex to consent and from pleasure to the orgasm gap. Dating has changed and we are swimming in uncharted waters. This is your compass and your guide.
What I can offer you through this book
A guide for you to unlearn. A how-to break the distorted lens of patriarchy through which you’ve been seeing women your whole life and the revelation of a new perspective.
A tool to teach you to think about dating and women differently, and not feel wronged or lost in a changing world, in which you feel you don’t belong.
You will begin to see women through a lens society has kept unseen. You will gain an insight into what the female experience really is, because without it, you cannot understand where any woman comes from, especially any woman who calls herself a feminist.
You will understand why in the last decade feminism has revived, whereas in the 90s it was considered as a joke in the expense of angry “unshaved” women who walked around with hairy armpits and burned their bras.
You will learn how to redefine stereotypical masculinity from toxic to worthy, how to reconsider what it means to be a straight man in the new feminist era, and how to reframe dating and casual relationships in a way that is rewarding for everyone involved.
This is an ethical cheat sheet on how to approach women differently, not through Player techniques and harmful strategies, but through a shift in mentality, so that you, yourself, can come to important realizations that will guide you to implement new tactics in dating, and evolve.
A feminist-conscious plan to give you vastly better chances of success with women. Although, a word of caution, your definition of “success with women” will shift. The goal is not the hunt or the conquest. Women are not a country you want to invade, or geese you want to hunt. The goal is happy, healthy and fun connections, whether they last for an hour or a lifetime. And the ultimate goal is better dating and sex, for all.
What I can
offer you through
this book
- A guide for you to unlearn. A how-to break the distorted lens of patriarchy through which you’ve been seeing women your whole life and the revelation of a new perspective.
- A tool to teach you to think about dating and women differently, and not feel wronged or lost in a changing world, in which you feel you don’t belong.
- You will begin to see women through a lens society has kept unseen. You will gain an insight into what the female experience really is, because without it, you cannot understand where any woman comes from, especially any woman who calls herself a feminist.
- You will understand why in the last decade feminism has revived, whereas in the 90s it was considered as a joke in the expense of angry “unshaved” women who walked around with hairy armpits and burned their bras.
- You will learn how to redefine stereotypical masculinity from toxic to worthy, how to reconsider what it means to be a straight man in the new feminist era, and how to reframe dating and casual relationships in a way that is rewarding for everyone involved.
- This is an ethical cheat sheet on how to approach women differently, not through Player techniques and harmful strategies, but through a shift in mentality, so that you, yourself, can come to important realizations that will guide you to implement new tactics in dating, and evolve.
- A feminist-conscious plan to give you vastly better chances of success with women. Although, a word of caution, your definition of “success with women” will shift. The goal is not the hunt or the conquest. Women are not a country you want to invade, or geese you want to hunt. The goal is happy, healthy and fun connections, whether they last for an hour or a lifetime. And the ultimate goal is better dating and sex, for all.
© 2023 Irini Georgi